Depression
Understanding depression — what it is, and what helps
Feeling a bit down is a normal reaction to disappointment or loss, or when you are tired, not sleeping well, or drinking too much. Depression is different. It is a serious illness that alters the way you see the world and the way you see yourself — often gradually, so that you come to believe that this is simply how life is.
Depression Can Sneak Up on You
It is often a partner, friend, or carer who notices that someone is struggling before the person themselves does. Depression affects judgment, motivation, and self-worth in ways that make it genuinely hard to recognise from the inside.
If you make up sneezing and coughing, you know you have a cold. If you have a panic attack, you know you are anxious. But if you quietly start doubting yourself, withdrawing, becoming less decisive — you may not realise that what you are experiencing is depression.
Thoughts of Suicide
Not everyone who suffers from depression will feel suicidal, but it is a risk that comes with the illness. If you are having any thoughts of suicide, please tell someone you trust — someone who will not judge you or overreact. Do see your GP.
The Samaritans are available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year: 116 123 (free, no charges).
What Helps
Do…
- Talk to others — do not keep thoughts and feelings bottled up
- See your doctor, even if the thought feels overwhelming
- Make yourself eat and drink — if your appetite is low, try easy options: milk, nuts, dried fruit
- Be kind to yourself — depression is not your fault, any more than a cold is
- Stay connected with family and friends, even if you do not feel like it
Avoid…
- Alcohol — it is a depressant, and drinking alone or to excess makes things worse
- Blaming yourself — depression is an illness
- Isolation — depression tells you no-one wants you; the opposite is true
- Minimising your symptoms or trying to manage it entirely alone
Treatment
Depression is treatable — often very treatable. Anti-depressant medication can help significantly, and psychological therapies (particularly CBT and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy) have a strong evidence base. Recovery takes time and can be a bumpy road, but it is possible. Do not give up.
Depression creates a distorted view — like wearing very dark glasses on a sunny day and being convinced it is dull, and that the sun will never shine again. Treatment gradually removes that dark filter and restores hope.